Things to do to forget someone you love
I know I sure as hell did. AL Anna Larg May 18,
You're likely to feel deeply wounded. If only you could forget he or she ever existed, because Not being able to be with him or her can be 'hell' and concentrating on anything else or just enjoying yourself is so hard. Whatever the circumstances - you wish you could get them out of your mind.
It's like they're permanently camping inside your head. Yet, at the same time - depending on the situation - you may desperately wish they could still be part of your life. Perhaps you had no inkling that it was going to end.
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If it was a shock, I'm quite sure you feel stunned and terribly rejected. Maybe you just want to stay in bed and weep all day, wishing you could just switch off and forget! You may be torturing yourself with thoughts about who he or she is with.
Do you know them? Is he or she better looking? Are they better in bed? It may be too latebut if there's still a glimmer of hope, have a look at my page on The Magic of Making up.
There may still be a chance to mend your broken relationship. You'll be able to connect with your counsellor as often as you need to in your very own 'counselling room'.
But, if you're sure there's no hope, let's get you sorted and help you to get over that person you still love. If you're short of time and you just want relief right away - hop over to my article on online hypnosis. I recommend two downloads for you - choose: First of all, know that being emotional costs loads of energy. You may well be tempted to spend your time thinking about the lost love, nurturing every thought about him or her.
Perhaps you're even devising imaginary or real plans to rekindle the love if you were dumped. However, that all adds to the emotional overload you're already dealing with.
I would really like you to ensure that you nurture your body and mind. This will help to 'inoculate' you against the temptation to wallow, and divert your attention to more positive things instead. Choose one or two things from the list of strategies and commit to them. Today is the first day of the rest of your life - it's time to move on!
Choose any of these strategies above - the worst thing you can do is do nothing but sit and ruminate! Pick whatever speaks to you, and commit to it. I promise you, you will be able to get over that certain someone - even though you may never forget them. But, you will have to put in some effort to help yourself along the way.
Here are some probing questions to get you really thinking about your ex. They will help you to get a different perspective on your situation.
They are a bit advanced though - you may or may not be ready for them. Here's a FREE downloadable and printable worksheet for you to help you answer the questions. Let's now get you on the right track to making a fresh start. Maybe you had an affair, a crush, or are in love with someone completely out of your reach. It's true that our past stays with us in one way or another, but if we wish to one day feel alive again, we must shift our focus into the future.
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Time does heal all wounds. How much time, however, depends on the individual. If this is someone you never imagined yourself moving on from, then you're probably going to need more time than you imagine. I know I sure as hell did. But move on you shall. In the end, we all do — as long as we allow ourselves to. Don't rush moving on. Don't rush into another relationship.
Just slow down a bit, and let time pass on by for a moment. Regardless of whether you were dumped or were the one doing the dumping, if you're still hung up on this person, then you're going to need to do some reasoning with yourself. You're bad for each other. You missed your chance. The timing was just never right. Or maybe, you just don't have it in you to keep on trying. They say if it's true love, you'll never stop trying.
Dance around your room naked, cook naked though nothing with hot oil! Learn to be concise with your feelings, and realize that the longer you go on about it, the more you are inevitably thinking about it. Get rid of them on social media, at least for a while.
Take a long walk around your city and just do fun, lazy errands like going to a bakery or picking out a new knick-knack for your apartment. Allow yourself to take the pleasure in small, everyday things.
Work on being civil with their new significant other, whenever they should arise — they are not the devil, no matter how convenient that would be to your storyline. Take a long drive with the windows down and no place in particular to go within reason, gas is expensive. Stop torturing yourself by poring over all your old conversations, texts, gifts, and everything that now exists only to upset you and make the entire past seem irrationally rosy. We absolutely need to go through the grieving process and that brings denial, anger, blame, depression, desperation, false hope and many more in between.
It may feel like the hurt is endless but remember to go with it — accept the feelings for what they are; a means to an end. Remember that you are doing this for yourself and no one else. Seeing what they are up to all the time is only opening the emotional wound over and over again and that wound will never have its chance to heal.
After the initial sadness of deletion you will feel very empowered and this empowerment will be good for your soul.
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As much as you may think it, your identity is not, and was not, tied to the relationship you had. Remembering to love yourself is probably the most important thing you can do after a breakup. Journaling your feelings may seem straight out of a 90s TV show but it has great healing qualities. Write down how you feel, read it back to yourself, throw it away or box it up.