How to tell a married man to leave you alone
Real, in-person encounters with the living only. But this breakup is different, yes ive tried multiple times.
Follow him into his office and proceed to make a real scene. Yell at him, tell him to get a life and leave you alone. Here are some tips on how to get a married man to leave his wife.
The problem is that … [Read More Just like different people have different personalities, married men have different types. He felt he needed to tell me. It made me really angry! Not only is this man married with two kids and his blatant disregard for them is nothing short of shocking! But we had literally only known each other for 4 weeks! I told him I had no feelings for him whatsoever. I said that his behaviour was selfish and just made me feel awkward. I said I never wanted to speak about this again and that I wanted to keep contact to a minimum.
One day I arrived at school after lunch. I was about 20 minutes early for class as I pulled into the car park. There is a park next to our school and Stan often goes for a walk during lunch break. When I pulled in, he was about m away roughly feetwith his back facing me walking in the other direction.
He obviously hears my car coming and turns his head to see who it is. The shivers ran down my spine. I turned away for about ten seconds tops to park my car properly and when I look back he had completely disappeared. The man is a freak! He sent me a text on the 24th which I ignored. I realized afterwards that he sent it to me from a different mobile telephone number than the one he gave to the rest of the class. Obviously, he might just have bought himself a new phone.
I am furious that he has made me feel so uncomfortable that I no longer enjoy going to school anymore after I waited so long to get in. I need this degree! But I do wish I could tell at least one of my classmates. It feels so isolating being in that classroom when he stares at me and makes me feel so awkward and yet the rest of the class is completely oblivious to it. Like he's abusing me right before people's eyes and they have no clue.
Maybe I just need to vent. The man is a total creep! I literally feel physically sick when I think about him. I think also, that the fact that since I moved back home, I have been pestered by 3 married guys to go out with them that I just have no patience for it anymore. But if you decide to stay with someone then have some bloody respect! It's really unfair that he ruined this opportunity for you and took away that internship.
What a disgusting old creep. Do you still have the emails? Print them out and take them with you if you decide to go to the head of your school to complain about him. I'm not nice at all so I'd call him out in class and tell him to quit staring at me every time I catch him at it.
I bet the rest of the class would be noticing every time he does it from then on. Thank you for your support. I've been feeling more and more isolated by it all. It feels good to be able to talk about it and to receive good words of advice. I'm seriously considering going to the head of school or at the very least discussing it with some of my class mates who I think I can confide in so that I'm not alone anymore and, just like you said, they can also keep an eye on and be a witness to his bad behavior.
Telling someone might help, but they don't need to believe you to validate what you are going through, you clearly know what is going on. I am sorry this guy is screwing with this new amazing start you have!
It isn't fair, and telling someone may make the isolation less of an issue. I know guys like that. It is infuriating for so many reasons. Stay strong you have come so far don't let him ruin it for you.
It's situations like these that can infuriate me more than others. Yet he has the gall to say he loves you instead of her.
I ask all men like him, if you do not love the woman who gave you every part of her on your wedding day, you don't deserve to wear that ring.
Sorry, I went on a rant there. My point is, he shouldn't be doing this to you, and something must be done. Show them the texts and the emails, and chances are, he'll get his comeuppance. And if you meet his wife, do the same thing.
She shouldn't be married to a man like that. I couldn't agree more. This woman has given him the best years of her life. I happen to know she gave up a career to become a housewife.
I don't think I could ever tell her though Granted, he might get his comeuppance if I did. But she is an innocent victim in all this and it would devestate her. And for all you know she still might not even leave him if she knew. God knows he seems like a very manipulative man so I wouldn't be surprised if he scared her into staying.
But her life would be worse for knowing. Obviously I hope she leaves his ass but I wouldn't wish that pain on her Plus I'm also slightly afraid of how angry that might make him. I do however think you're right about letting the others know. I don't actually feel safe anymore I had initially assumed that his behavior was due to not knowing how to communicate with women and being a bit awkward.
But when I think about how he went about doing it I can't help but think there's something not normal about the man. And that he is extremely selfish and totally unconcerned about the consequences of his actions Thank you for taking the time to comment.
If I were you, I would take the internship and warn them about this creep. Show them the emails, tell them the background. You deserve this opportunity. Don't let some scumbag ruin things for you. Tell him if he doesn't stop and stay away, you'll print out the emails and give them to his wife. Don't let him have power over you. Wow, what a selfish douchbag!! You should save all the emails and texts he send.
Because it might escalate. You should tell someone and carry pepper spray. All serious aside as I left a serious comment, it makes me laugh he tried that game when he sent you that email-- how very year-old of him--and it backfired into his face. Oh, you don't want me to talk to you? I hate the guys who pine away thinking that life is a romantic comedy and they are entitled to a 'happy ending' and if they don't get it it is the person who turns them down's fault. I tell married guys who hit on me I don't want contact period.
I don't want them as friends because if they are willing to do that they are capable of other unsavory stuff. That and do they ever really stop trying to get with you after they say they are ok as friends? Not in my experience. I think the best thing to do would be to ignore him, and if he ends up doing something from here on, a message, or getting too close, save everything you've received, and show it to someone in authority.
Head of the school, even keep it for something to threaten him with if he escalates this to a place where it becomes something you have to push him into a corner with. I went through a similar experience when I was in high school. He's done it once, making him more likely to do it again. It's really simple actually: The final reason for ending a relationship with a married man has to do with you alone: Dating a married man means sneaking around, jumping through hoops, acting immoral, and hurting others.
Dating a man who is not married, on the other hand, involves roses and wine, weekend getaways and the ability to go on dinner dates in public places.
Dating a man who isn't married also involves commitment, something a married man is unable to give you. Dating someone who is already taken means compromising who you are and your own happiness. To learn more about ending a relationship with a married man, click here. In fact u always say your works would crash if we were found out. Thankfully I am also married and would stay married but I did have a foolish thought that I would do anything to be with u.
I made peace with the fact that u will forsaken me when challenged. I want to be able to sleep. Nomad, you are doing the right thing, I so liked how you outlined the reasons to stop this painful relationship. We are here to support you. Because he will disappear over weekends, because he will be busy with family, because he thinks I should also not neglect my family, because he feels guilty stealing moments to text me or even think of me for a second. Dear ladies, We are all suffering from the same insane, never-ending lie.
We need to be strong. We are all being lied to and we have fallen for these guys who treat us like dirt. No matter how much he said he love you, he is cheating YOU by not leaving her.
We have grown to accept such treatment. I have cried too many nights away, the pain as he always take me as second place, calling only when he is free, shame as people will only know you as the other shameless woman.
I miss him but its just too painful. No one else can help you except yourself. I say that because i know. Find meaning in yourself. You CAN Get out of it. We met through a FB group and chatted online for a while before we physically met. I am also married but am very unhappy, duh. We started out physically and emotionally very hard.
He lives 5 hours away, so we see each other maybe once a month. We talk every day via message or phone. Unfortunately, this man goes hot and cold with his emotions.
We do have plans for Friday. Your married man also has a void so that when he feels he needs you to feel that void, he contacts you. Of course when he needs you to fulfill his desires, he can tell you anything, how he feels about you, how he wants you, how he is jealous of you, etc. And I stopped seen him in person, in person meetings are the most addictive! It is so easy to get caught up but extremely difficult to get OUT!!!
I have been dating my married man for 6 months sleeping with him for 2 months and i am too experiencing the rollercoaster. I like him a lot and it is not just the sex.
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I like how attentive he can be, i enjoy how we can talk about anything, he makes me feel amazing, he is pretty consistant and he seems to genuinely enjoy my company. We hadnt been intimate for 5 weeks and it wasnt because he couldnt make time for me but it was because i couldnt make time for him. He seemed a little annoyed by that and he said baby listen i want to see you and you need to make it happen so of course I did.
He knows exactly what I want to hear and it works…sad to say it but it does! I dont expect him to leave his woman for me but it is definitely bitter sweet.
This site has made me feel like i have some people in my corner, the support is helpful and i can vent and not have to worry about feeling ashamed or judged. Although i havent gotten strong enough to leave, i honestly feel that this forum will help me get through this part of my life….
Best Wishes to us ALL. You sound like my twin! We have plans for tomorrow not. If you asked meI woukd tell you to end it, no matter how hard it is. It will only get worst and your feeling will get stronger and the harder it will become to end the affair, when you fully realized that he is only stringING you along and you do deserve better.
He does not love me that I know, he wants to be with his family and have all the dolls to play with. I am not his doll, and I am not looking to play. This relationship, sorry affair has turned my world upside down. Finally I am determined to put this all behind me. There He has someone to keep him warm, through the nights, while I stare at the ceiling with endless thoughts and so many questions and the hours seeming like days.
Although I have regretted so many things in my lifegetting involved with a martied man has been far the ultimate biggest regret of my life. Only if I could go back in time it would be so different.
So many times I wished for a memory loss so I never have to think about those days again and suffer those pain and disappointments over and over again. But the damage is done and now I have to face the consequences for my actions. No excuses and no repeat ever again. Dear Samantha I am in the very same situation. Only that i divorced my spouse because we had problems. The married man i see lives in another town he is very rich and powerful. He is also possesive and jealous.
He says that i belong to him, but although he insisted in my taking a divorce and said he would help financialy,he let me do all the procedure alone without sparing a peny. He says he loves me but he is coming only when he has free time. I see him every month or 15 days. For the first 5 months he told me he was divorced made me love him, in other words he deceived me. I am 40 years old with 2 kids and very sad. So i have to face 2 break ups.
I am in terrible pain but i will leave him because he may buy everything he wants with hiS money or make women go after him for i,t but he cant play with people. Hope one day he will be punished for what he does. I gave him true love but i dont want to be his toy. Its time to show some dignity as i was raised with. I dont wish to be treated like the other woman!!! I think my heart is completely destroyed. The last year has been a long and difficult one after the wife started to suspect and our relationship has had to cool substantially.
The affair itself 14 years long and he was my best friend as well as a lover and I miss him so much. Over the weekend I saw some images of a semi naked girl on his phone. I feel broken and devastated. Did I mean so little to him? I need to move on and let go, if only for my sanity, but how do I do that when I see him through work? Be strong, you can do this. Did you confront him about the pics on his phone? Yes and he has denied that they were there.
Yes I confronted him. At the end of the day, regardless of anything, rightly or wrongly I still see him as a friend and I would hate to see him hurt. Any advice or just someone to listen is really appreciated! Somehow I am back with the married man again after one week NC. We went out dinner a couple of times this week. We kissed a little bit at lounge which is kind of crazy.
No affections should be allowed in public because the whole relationship should be discrete.
Next weekend is our anniversary. I had a couple of tickets for a Broadway shows on the weekend. On the other hand, he booked with wife to Hampton for surprise birthday party.
I told him really up to him what he wants and priorities in his life. He is a grown up. Make his own decisions. Our relationship is not exclusive.
We need to prioritize with families if we have to. He said he will talk to wife tonight if he can cancel Hampton trip and let me know tomorrow. I told him maybe the best if she goes first by car service and u join her the day after. I am so tired of fighting and heartbroken. I tried nc a couple of times. I know myself well. I have read this article at least 10 times. Currently I am just trying my best to cope with the reality.
I think he might be the same. We both tired of fighting. I know the fact he will be miserable without me that day. No reason to put more pressure to him.
I have been involved with a married man for 2 years. He was someone I met when I was We exchanged numbers but never contacted one another. I saw him on Facebook and just sent a request. He told me he was married and they were having a baby due December Again I was having harmless conversation. I was talking to this guy I really liked and was into so it was just friendly convo… He later began to tell me he was in a dark place and his marriage has been changing n he got to the point he wanted to harm himself and he had to see a therapist.
I was a listening ear and just gave feedback when necessary. We talked every day all day just friendly conversations. He finally asked if we could meet up I agreed because to me it was harmless I felt uncomfortable and I made the visit short… well he went missing for a week and I found myself missing him.
I think it was the daily conversations. I went by and when I followed him he kisses me. I was taken back and I was confused I was shocked I said I had to go.
That stayed on my mind and then I realized I liked that he kissed me. I later switched jobs and was relocated literally 4 blocks from where he worked. We would spend every lunch together. I was vulnerable and I loved the attention he was giving me. I started to fall for him. He would say we had chemistry. We saw one another and talked so much I started to feel bad. Around NovemberI could feel his feelings for me.
I knew he was married but I started fallen for him.
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He begged for me to go to his business trip with him but I declined. He took me to dinner for my birthday. I was angry and heartbroken.
I cried mainly because I felt so stupid… so that night I had it set in my head I was ending it. I sent him a long msg and told him it was over. The next morning he responded and he was surprised he asked was I sure and I said yes and explain he said I should think about it and if he could msg me later. He told me how much he loved me and how he felt he was tied down and obligated to his wife but he was feeling and had chemistry with me.
I took him back… I missed him and I allowed his words to get to me. I felt I was loyal to him. I got approached by guys but because of him I turned them down.
He texted and said change of plans because his wife was now joining him I was heartbroken and very upset… but I pretend I was okay and was t worrying about it.
Well his wife screenshot a pic from a snapchat convo he and I had. I started going out with a guy and I informed him he would say he was for it but I know else. He begged again for me to go on business trip with him I declined but he left earlier and he came to my house… we had sex. I felt like whoa. He kept touching me and texting me all the night. I felt eyes burning into me and looked up it was his wife. When she made eye contact she turned her head. I left and went to a different bar. He started texting me soon as I realized I left.
I really really need to move on. I have a similar situation. Reading these comments really help. My married man and I were acquaintances in the gym. Little by little he kept telling me his whole life and problems.
I pushed him away over and over, but he kept at me. He worked his way in telling me how much he loved me. Said our connection was so unique and special.
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He made me feel so loved. He was so attentive, so I broke. For a year he talked about leaving his wife for me. I came first in everything, he made me his priority. Then his wife got breast cancer. I felt so awful, thankfully it was caught early. We talked and decided he should stay until she recovers from the surgery. Things went along as before, me still being the priority.
But he never breaks off contact with me. Continually meets me, goes out with me, dinner, fun days, intimacy, says he loves me. I get sick of it, tell him I need space and totally blow him off. I go away on a vacation and he texts me over and over where are you? Even drives by my house. Begs me to see him repeatedly.
I see him when I return after 2 weeks. I agree, and everything is all loving again. Hi, my story is slightly different from a few here and I hope it remains a healthy one.
I have known my married man since I was When we reconnected he was 35, in an unhappy marriage of 2 years no kids and I was also married at 31, with one 4 year old child. We hit the ground running and he totally love bombed me and made me feel like I had found my souls mate.
I was NOT in an unhappy marriage. I kept waiting for him to say he wanted to be with me, but he never did, never got physically intimate with me only emotionally intimate and asked me not to leave my child and husband. That was a year ago. But then I healed and I was in a better place, and I was trying to get pregnant again. Cut to the current situation, we reconnected again. Am I wrong to pursue this? The only hiccup is even the friend ship is in secret.
I tried to resist him for a long time but he did all the running. I tried then to not fall in love with him but I did and now it is so hard. He says he will leave his wife for me as he loves me and sees his future with me not his wife as after 20 yrs they have grown apart. When we are together it is always amazing and I do think if circumstances were different we would be together I have no doubt about that.
He swears blind he never sleeps with his wife and I do believe him on that count. I have been seeing a married man for 6 years on and off. We now live in different states so I have only seen him a couple of times in the past year. I feel like such a fool to have wasted so much time in this relationship.
I was also married when it first started and unhappy in that marriage. I know that was the right thing to do since i was very unhappy and had fallen in love with someone else.
So much has happened in the past 6 years. We have both tried to move on but only go a few months without contact. He has been saying for about 5 years he is divorcing her. His wife knows about the affair. She knows it ended and restarted a couple of times. But earlier this year we started texting and talking on the phone again. He said he was ready to end his marriage. He wanted to end it on his terms and not because of an affair. Its mostly due to money. That sounds so disgusting as i write it.
How could I love someone like that? Because he knows how to make me feel like the most important person in the world. He has been the one to end things before. But it was also because I caught him in lies. I can see that now. I feel so stupid. I feel like such a fool. I did date for a few months. But could only think of him. I have pushed him to divorce. Supposedly, he asked her for a divorce 2 months ago.
He says it takes time to sort things out. She is still with him. We had another fight about her still being there recently and he stopped writing.
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I wrote him out of weakness and he he said he loved me. Not to worry, etc. Its too much money to lose and she knows we have been communicating.
I have wanted to believe him. I know I am being naive and foolish. I know it takes time. I am just trying to make it through today without talking to him. Do I call him and end it? Do I just ignore him? I am so tired of all this. I am an intelligent woman but why do i let this married man lie to me and use me and string me along? I feel so incredibly stupid. I would tell anyone else to get out of this kind of relationship and yet, here I am.
So far today, no communication. I need the strength to keep it that. It is helping me today. MT thanks for sharing. It is not easy but you have to stay focused on you and take it day by day.
Of course I am caught up with a married man and I am starting to realize how much i want it to be over. One that can hang out with me on any day and not just certain days. I want a man that is only invested in me. I do not have the answers but I am searching. I hate that my married man is the only male I am seeing. I am sure I am not the only woman he sees outside of his wife. He is very flirty and even if he is just seeing me on the side, i refuse to trust and believe that.
If he lie to her he will lie to me. I pray we all are able to untangle ourselves from this web of lies and deceit. He said he hopes he get to see me this weekend but i dont think i even want to see him.
Im debating about how i want to tell him its over. Do I tell him in person or over the phone? Its only been 6 months so i am sure he wont care much. No more secrets and lies. I doubt almost everything my MM has told me. But he is so convincing.
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